Nano Library: XEN ANGELIDES: Give Life to the Meaning of Life
In his book, “Start with Why”, Simon Sinek shares a familiar story:
“Consider the story of two stonemasons, you walk up to the first mason and ask “Do you like your job?”
He looks up at you and replies, “I’ve been building this wall for as long as I can remember. The work is monotonous. I work in the scorching hot sun all day. The stones are heavy and lifting them all day can be backbreaking. I’m not sure if this project will be completed in my lifetime. But it’s a job. It pays the bills.”
You thank him for his time and walk on.
About thirty feet away, you walk up to a second stone mason and ask him the same question. He looks up and replies, “I love my job. I’m building a cathedral. Sure I’ve been working on this wall for as long as I can remember and yes, the work is sometimes monotonous. I work in the scorching hot sun all day. The stones are heavy and lifting them day after day can be backbreaking. I’m not even sure if this project will be completed in my lifetime. But I’m building a cathedral.”
How does this story compare to your life?
What is significant about this story is the meaning that each man gave to the work that he was doing. The first stonemason saw it merely as a job – he was miserable doing it and the wages he earned was only a means to an end. The other saw his job in a different light. The meaning he gave it was the complete opposite to the first stonemason as he stated his purpose!
We face challenges of all kinds, whether you are a refugee fleeing to find a better life in another country, parents facing the prospect of losing their child to some life-threatening disease or a business owner facing financial catastrophe. What meaning do you give to the problems you face? Are you a reflection of the first stone mason or the second?
Economic uncertainty, the crazy, bus-i-ness of work and life, negative influences, past experiences and conditioning can precipitate an emotional state at any given moment; which may trigger reactive responses.
We are emotional beings – there is no doubt. We are so distracted by many individual situations that can get us acutely overwhelmed. It affects our thought process and our emotional state. How can we change this? Try the following:
1. Change the meaning that you give a particular challenge you face.
2. Dig deeper within yourself to expand your purpose within this meaning.
3. If things are not going your way, ask yourself this question, “What else could this mean?”
It is an exercise that will help you discover truth, meaning and an inspiration for yourself.
A lack of purpose can affect our self-worth. We need to remind ourselves that we are innately worthy of love, happiness, abundance. However many of us consistently perceive ourselves to be unworthy.
“A person’s worth is contingent upon who he or she is, not upon what he or she does, or how much he or she has.
The worth of a person or a thing or an idea is in being, not in doing, not in having.” – Alice Mary Hilton
Motivating your Mind Inspiring your Spirit(XEN ANGELIDES: Give Life to the Meaning of Life)
Xen Angelides, founder of X-Factor Human Performance Systems is a 30 year fitness industry leader, accomplished educator, speaker and champion free style body builder title holder in Australia. A certified coach, NLP master practitioner and neurological re-patterning expert, Xen has helped countless business people transform their thinking, performance, business and lives.